Anger is an emotion that can range from mild annoyance to intense rage. It is
a feeling that is accompanied by biological changes in your body. When you
get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure rise and stress hormones are
released. This can cause you to shake, become hot and sweaty and feel out of
control.

When people have angry feelings, they often behave in angry ways too. Angry
behaviours include yelling, throwing things, criticising, ignoring, storming
out and sometimes withdrawing and doing nothing.

Remind yourself that the cause of your anger is not the result of some cosmic
conspiracy. Everybody stands in long queues, sits in traffic and is subjected
to bureaucratic incompetence. Don't take it personally and you're less likely
to become angry.

Regardless of whether you fume silently, punch your pillow or throw vases,
these anger management strategies will have a positive effect on both your
health and your relationships with others. If however, you still find
yourself struggling to control your anger and your reactions, you should seek
professional help.

Mature people seek better ways to deal with their anger in an argument. They
make a contract with their partner that they can leave during a fight when
they feel that they are getting out of control. They remove themselves to a
private place for time out. In private they do damage control techniques to
bring their anger level down and then return to deal with the problem.

When you're angry, your thinking can get exaggerated and irrational. Try
replacing these kinds of thoughts with more useful, rational ones and you
should find that this has an effect on the way you feel. For example, instead
of telling yourself 'I can't stand it, it's awful and everything's ruined',
tell yourself 'It's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about
it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix
it'. Psychologists call this type of thinking 'self talk'.

Develop a list of things to say to yourself before, during and after
situations in which you may get angry. It is more helpful if these things
focus on how you are managing the situation rather than what other people
should be doing.

Underlying anger is caused by a perceived loss of control over factors
affecting important values. The values in the above examples might be pride,
getting someplace on time, someone you love, money, or being treated "fairly"-
-we are frustrated about not getting what we want or expect.

Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to
intense fury and rage. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by
physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and
blood pressure go up, and so does the level of your energy hormones,
adrenalin and noradrenalin.

Anger can be caused by external or internal events. You could be angry at a
specific person (such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a
canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about
your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also
trigger angry feelings.

Have a look at http://www.cureangermanagement.com for more information.